Welcome back!

Hello everybody!

I know, I know! I haven’t been here for quiet a long time, but thanks to my former lecturer  -> yes, thanks Dr. F. :)! I got motivated to start writing again.

I don’t want to repeat myself, so either if you read my blog before and remember a little bit about me, but you would like to see what has changed at mine, either you have never heard anything about me, but you would like to see who I am and what I do, please look up for page:

About me 🙂 

I also would like to let you know that I am gonna update my recent pages. I have written them up while studying at college and I have been limited in it’s length, so the plan is to make the pages more detailed and hopefully more interesting.

I must say that I feel excited to go back to writing the blog. I am planning to post (soon-working on it) a wee recap on research methods!

Bye for now and see you soon!

Alex

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Anastasia Awakens

I must say that. I am completely moved by the story of my blogger friend @takingthemaskoff@ At the beginning of this story I thought: It is wrong! We cannot ask the person: Why are you doing that? This is not correct… Why nobody told her: Please don’t do it again and if next time those feelings come again, call me and I’ll be next to you. We will walk this way together. I also absolutely agree with @takingthemaskoff@ that we live in incarcerating society and what’s more we should be very ashamed of it! What I found very sad about this story is that the jail is the last stop, the last place where the person is settled, only because nobody can help or better said nobody WANTS to help her… This is what the system do to us! Another thing to be ashamed of! I was also thinking why Anastasia has never met someone as smart, intelligent and rich in experience as my blog friend, before the tragedy took place? Why? Was it the lesson for humanity? Was it the lesson for everyone who worked in places where Anastasia went? Or maybe this happened, because my friend must tell about it to me and you? I thought also about people who are well educated… I can bet that all of them heard about CBT, therefore why nobody noticed that maybe this treatment would help her and Anastasia will still be alive? Maybe instead of threatening her showing and working with her on her behavior would change the way she was? At the end of everything she just wanted a close relationship with someone. That’s all what she needed. I am completely overwhelmed that nobody wasn’t able to notice a simple need that is so obvious. I recently had an assessment on attachment theories and yes there are many studies that show prons and cons of privation and deprivation, but this story completely convinced me to strongly stand on Bowlby’s side and completely agree with his famous statement that: “mother love in infancy is an important for mental health as are vitamins and proteins for physical health”. Two things for the end… First one is absolute and huge salute for my blog friend @takingthemaskoff@ for huge experience and knowledge about biological processes of the brain and also for an effort to show us the concrete study on related topic (study on monkeys in details clearly portray how animals, but also humans should be treat) but also I would like to thank for highlighting the importance of sociological views on our relationships in terms of social media. The other thing is that I would like to thank you my friend for a beauty of your heart as a professional. I personally think that if all professionals in the whole world would have just only a bit of sensitivity of your heart and mix this with their experiences the world would be some much better and the stories like this of Anastasia wouldn’t have to happened. Why individuals see their mistakes when it is to late? It is so sad…

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“I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything; but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.”

I walk into the jail. It is my first day as the new supervisor of the medical unit. What a great opportunity to change things with this job. I did not know why they hired me to do this job. I had at the time 10-12 years working in psychiatry and this was a jail, which is mostly medical I thought.

I was there for a few minutes, and met the staff members. Right away there is a behavior code called and we are to rush to the cell to see what it is. I follow along and watch. We get to the cell and there is where I would first meet Anastasia…

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HELPING THE HUNGRY GHOST

As always, the story have been said for an A!:)

I do agree with my blog friend…planting a seed and caring about it may be the most important challenge in our life.

There are of course ups and downs but the most important is to NOT miss the moment, not miss the “gardener” who give us the lesson:)

Thank you for that story my friend 🙂

Alex

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“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”

Hopeless. Given up, throwing in the towel. This is pointless and I cannot do this anymore. This is a feeling we all have at times. I remember a time when I was working at a rehabilitation facility. I was sitting in a staff meeting and it all boiled over. I screamed at all the staff, “What is the point of this, what are we even doing for these patients! We just take their money, give them 80 dollars a month, and do not help anyone! This is a complete fraud. We write notes so we get paid, not because we care!” “Someone tell me what we have done for Bill!” No one answered. “See we do not help anyone, this is a complete joke and it is wrong.”

The looks on everyone’s faces said it all. It was a small room…

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Something from my culture :)

Hi there,

I would like to make you laugh a bit and show you how Polish people differ from others. Yes, I know each culture is different, but see how freaky we are 🙂 Although I must admit, since I moved to Scotland I found some sentences or phrases either not funny at all when all people around were laughing into tears or I was laughing when everybody looked at me thinking: There is nothing to laugh about…

Well, let have a look and share what you think about “crazy” Polish people 🙂

Enjoy!

http://matadornetwork.com/notebook/20-funniest-polish-phrases-use/

Alex

Instincts=courage!

Hello everyone!

I wanted to share with you today my thoughts about one amazing story. I have always thought that it couldn’t be anything more humiliating than lack of control over your body, over that what we say loudly or expressing ourselves without control. The story of a man who just wanted to look after his own daughter change my mind completely.

They were young, they had troubles, they were drug users. Nothing of that can lead to have a child, but this exactly happened. After a time they split up, she drawn into drug addiction, he wanted help, but she has rejecting that. She couldn’t raise a child as the drugs were stronger. Court… Questions… What the judge will decide? And then after when the judge suppose to reveal the verdict about the future of a lovely girl, he direct the question to the grandfather of the girl about what he suppose to do? Send a girl home with him or send a girl home with her father? How dare he? He is a judge! It is obvious that grandfather loves his daughter and would be happy to look after her, while her mother fights with the addiction. But he desperately wants to keep her with him… And then… Impossible become possible. He won, he takes her home!

Under the umbrella of this story is another story. The judge know the grandfather, he save his life when they were young. He knew that his answer will be the best solution for girl, he trust him totally this time as when he put his life into his hands.

The author of the story use a perfect citation to this story:

“Sometimes our inability to control our instincts gives us a level of courage we don’t normally have.” -Jason Whitlock

Why do I think it is perfect? Well, what if he wouldn’t exposed his feelings and instincts out that day in court? Maybe grandfather said something else?

As I mentioned at the beginning, now I have change my mind and I don’t think anymore that our inability of controlling ourselves is humiliating, because it is not 🙂

If you would like to read the whole, detailed story I recommend to have a look here:

http://takingthemaskoff.com/2015/02/27/forced-surrender-fear-will-make-you-a-prisoner-but-love-will-set-you-free/#like-317

P.S I do apologize if I twisted any facts from the story 🙂 It was all written from my memory!

Alex

International Women’s Day!

Today we are celebrating the International Women’s Day. Therefore, I would like to remind you that, not only today, but every single day since you walk on this planet, you are unique and special. Nowadays women mostly all the time strive to meet the expectations of ideal role model women and forgot how precious we are, how important we are, no matter of anything!

Look… Listen.. and believe that you are a diamond!

And then… Smile !!! 🙂

I hope you had a wonderful day!

fresias

Alex